Never Confuse a Vacation with a Family Trip

This is wise advice someone gave me once. Or did I read it in a magazine? In any case we discovered several weeks ago how true it is. Our family loves to take road trips- day trips, weekend trips, etc... Load 'em up in the car and get out of town. No meltdown so large that a few snacks, loud music, and Scooby Doo on DVD can't cure. In that frame of mind we embarked on our first "road trip" with all three children. We drove out to Redfish Lake (the REAL one this time, for those of you that remember our doomed venture last summer!). The three hour drive there went well. But once we got there we discovered how challenging it is going to be to take all three of the kids ANYWHERE and keep them safe, happy, and entertained at the same time. The view, as you can see, is gorgeous. Those are the Sawtooth Mountains in the distance. The lake was surprisingly warm. But we were unable to enjoy it very much. It is the first time we felt truly outnumbered by our children. "We're not in Kansas anymore," I thought. It's a whole new ballgame now.

I wanted to swim with the boys, but one of us needed to stay with Faith. Tanner was covered with dirt and mud and needed to be rinsed off, but Jake wanted to play baseball. Brian wanted some peace and quiet out in the water, but everyone needed help.

We tried to eat a picnic lunch but had nowhere to put Tanner so he dragged his pbj through the dirt and we chased him away from the water's edge. Faith fussed and needed to be held, so I ate with one hand while patting her butt with the other. Jake was disappointed and whiny that we couldn't figure out how to get a game of baseball in.

Needless to say our stay was short. We were happy to get back into the car, turn the tunes back on, get some ice cream cones, and head for home. We don't regret our trip: these are the memories we choose to make. We would miss out on so much if we just stayed home because it is easier. At least the drive was relaxing (and gorgeous) and we got to sing at the top of our lungs everything from John Denver through Axl Rose. We are heading out for a camping trip this weekend. I'm sure lots of memories (good, bad, and ugly!) will be made there. Wish us luck!

We are both assuming that all of these trips, outings and things are imminently "do-able". After all, families much larger than ours have done things far more formidible than this . We know there's a light in the distance. We both assume that it's just an experience thing; there's a rythym there that we just haven't hit yet. At this point it just feels like a needle in a haystack; we need to find it, only the haystack is the size of Texas, it's dark and raining, and all of the kids are "helping".....